I got this from an email and wanted to share with you. I highlighted some of my comments in it.
I was talking with my friend the other day and we were arguing about male infidelity. Iâ€™m of the opinion that men are worse cheats than women, though some people may not agree with me on this, especially males. Yet, the age-old question of why men are unfaithful is difficult to answer.Infidelity touches all types of people, rich or poor. For example: Hally Berryâ€™s ex-husband, Eric Benet, was notorious for cheating on one of the most beautiful, successful women in Hollywood. What the heck was wrong with him? Another Hollywood superstar, Hugh Grant chose a street hooker for his sexual escapade even though he had the incredible looking actress Elizabeth Hurley for a girlfriend. Jude Law cheated on Sienna Miller. (so seems like male are naturally cheaters? I read from some posts that physiologically, If i’m not mistaken, men are polygamous in nature??)
According to one Hollywood polls I saw somewhere; Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith have the strongest Hollywood marriage. You know why? Fidelity. In another poll of over 133,000 women, 56% caught their man cheating red handed and another 36% suspected but didnâ€™t have proof. This doesnâ€™t say much for the current monogamy rates in our society.
However, truth be told, long-term monogamy is difficult for most men, even those that arenâ€™t far away from their lady. However, it is not only men that cheat, but also women. Take for instance, Meg Ryan, who left her husband Russell Crowe for an affair. Statistics differ on who cheats more â€“ men or women. Most statistics still say that men are more unfaithful but that may change in the future. However, if two people really love each other and want to be with each other, theyâ€™ll have the strength to withstand temptation.
Most husbands probably have the urge to cheat at one time or another. Many experts feel that an unfaithful man cheats because he is in an unhealthy relationship that already had existing problems(who doesn’t have any problems in relationships? I guess normal relationships have problems in it.). It would be interesting to know how many men who are in happy relationships are unfaithful. And this is so true!
However, what are the reasons men are unfaithful? Sometimes it can be a simple reason, other times a complex combination of reasons. Are unfaithful men simply insatiable sexually? Is an unfaithful man really controlled by his â€œprivatesâ€ and not his mind? Sometimes, this one in particular gets me worrying so much. Bluntly put, are we being controlled by our d**cks instead of our head, eh? (so it looks like cheating has really something to do with being sexually deprived? or related to sexual thing u call that?)
Various statistics claim that the more attractive a person is, the more likely they will be unfaithful because their opportunities to cheat increase. However, just because you marry an ugly guy doesnâ€™t mean he wonâ€™t be unfaithful. So, girls that run away from fine guys should do a rethinkâ€¦lol!
Personally, I believe, cheating is an extremely selfish act. Men who cheat rarely think about their partnerâ€™s feelings when committing the act. Since a cheating man lacks respect for his lady, he is obviously much more likely to make moves on a sexy lady.(well, do you think cheating is only related to having sex or affair outside marriage? so how do u consider porn(magazine, video, cyber, etc)? guys who use porn to satisfy sexual urge. This topic had actually been touched on oprah, tyra bank show and even forums. And most of the answers from guys were they juz did it for fun but how about their wife’s feelings?)
Sometimes having sex is the only way a cheating man can even achieve an emotional bond. Because of this, it isnâ€™t surprising that when men cheat, many times their emotional needs are not met at all. Those cheating men that suffer from the guilt associated from the affair may experience a mix of emotions ranging from lashing out in anger, depression or being overly nice. Itâ€™s a vicious cycle and one that is hard to break.
Itâ€™s infra dignitatis to be associated with anything as bad as male infidelity. Itâ€™s high time we called a spade a spade and see what is bad as uncompromisingly so. Letâ€™s take the bull by the hornsâ€™ by changing one at a time. This is not going to be easy at all but the fact that its for the betterment of all male species and nobody is exempt from its poisonous effects should be enough propeller to ginger and sustain us until victory is assured! Nuff said.